I’ll never forget those anxious, nail-biting moments when my
parents—usually my mom—took off for parent-teacher conferences. I wasn’t always the most diligent
of students, so I worried. Would I get in trouble for combing my hair in
social studies class to impress the girls?
(Yes, I actually had hair at one time.) Would I have to begin my science
fair project when she got home? The due date was only a few days from now, and
in my opinion I had plenty of time remaining to complete the task. Years later,
I prepare for my own child’s
parent-teacher conferences, and I am still nervous. What if my child isn’t doing as
well as I hoped? What if they’re socializing too much in class? Will the
teacher think I’m a bad parent? This is
what goes through the minds of some parents.
Be
positive with people and you’ll get positive results (Blanchard, Lacinak, Tompkins,
Ballard, & Blanchard, 2002).
As
a former coach, I view parent-teacher conferences like a time-out in a game. It
is a brief opportunity in a contest (school year) to praise or redirect
performances. Todd Whitaker (2004) is known for stating, “Raise the praise and
minimize the criticize.” A conference is
not the time to vividly describe and elaborate on every single minor
classroom disruption, but if critical feedback is necessary it’s often best
delivered with a sandwiching technique.
Great
teachers help create magical moments and have the ability to ignore minor
errors (Whitaker,
2004).
Here are some additional tips for successful conferences
that I found from the
Illinois Education Association (2000). I hope you will keep these in mind as
you prepare for next week’s conferences:
- Prepare
an outline. How are you going to budget your minimal time with parents?
- Gather
student samples for praising and for redirecting.
- Anticipate
possible parent concerns.
- Greet
each parent with a handshake and a friendly smile. (I always stood to greet a parent.)
- Ask
parents if they have any concerns, and reassure parents that their
concerns will be addressed.
- Before
addressing any concern, describe students’ improvements or successes
since Interims.
- Collaborate
when addressing any concern. There should be teacher suggestions as well
as parent input. Both parties should agree to this strategy. Suggestions
may include more parent involvement by having parents sign daily agendas,
assignments, or tests. This may mean more teacher involvement also, such
as signing agendas, checking notebooks or binders, or having a phone or
email contact.
- End on a positive note.
It is impossible to praise too much as long as it is
authentic (Bissell,
1992).
Conferences have provided me with some of my most
rewarding moments in teaching. Just as we appreciate praise for our
efforts, parents appreciate
praise for their efforts and their child’s progress. The school calendar may set
aside time for parent-teacher conferences each year. However, I believe great teachers know that parent-teacher
conferences are held throughout the entire school year. A great teacher keeps
the student, the team, and the parents informed at all times. Enjoy meeting and getting to know the parents
of your students.
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